It seems my body has really clicked into this NVC conciousness. I attribute some of it to having received the empathy I’d needed earlier this week.
Yesterday I experienced being able to connect to a work mate I hadn’t connected with on a deeper level before. When she spoke of her feelings about her manager – the Office Manager, that so many others in my firm have dificulties with – I began reflecting back what she was saying in terms of feelings and needs.
This empathy seemed to be a positive experience for her as well, because she sent me a thank you skype message. I asked her how she felt now and she responded that she was actually feeling much better – I sensed her surprise. I was really invigorated by that conversation as well… I guess it gave me affirmation that this stuff really works(!) and also met my need for contribution to helping other people’s lives be more wonderful.
Another workmate asked me if I liked his new shirt. Not being a ‘fashionista’ I really hadn’t payed any attention to his shirt and honestly had no opinion of it. I was in shock and not knowing what to say blurted, ‘oh it’s just a shirt’. HA! Later when chatting to him about this exchange I asked him what he felt when he put that shirt on this morning. I then said, ’so you were pretty excited about wearing your new shirt today and wanted to celebrate. Is that why you spoke to me about it?’. Yes. *giggle*
I’m smirking to myself while typing this now. I had thought I needed to explain myself to him about how I felt about his shirt, but really, all I needed to do was celebrate with him this joyous occasion. 
Tags: celebration, connecting, connection, empathy, learning nvc, nvc, nvc conciousness, work
