Why am I unhappy at work? I’m really not sure, and so that is making things worse. I don’t know what it is that I really want or need.
I know I feel pretty dejected. but it makes it a bit hard to focus on tasks that will make me happy if I don’t know what they would be.
It’s always easier to know what you don’t want… figuring out what you do want is the trickier part – but the much more powerful situation to get yourself into.
Okay… so here goes. I’ll start with just writing down everything that’s swirling about my head and then I’ll try NVCifing it to find answers.
- It’s like I’m doing a job that would be for someone with far less experience than I.
- I’m only supporting my boss, I don’t have my own project that I can own and take full responsibility for.
- I’m really not that interested in law firms… I’d prefer to help people in the community sector. But then again, helping people communicate with each other in any industry would be good. I’d love to be invited to their offices to help mediate or train them in team groups on how to deal better with one another.
- I’m so bored. There’s not enough variety in the work to keep me challenged and interested.
- I really dislike having a boss that lives and works overseas. I need interaction on a daily basis.
NVC feelings and needs:
- I feel dejected because I need importance, to matter and be a full functioning member of the firm.
- I need autonomy and responsibility.
- I’m blegh because I need for my work to have meaning and to contribute to the broader community.
- I’m bored because I need variety.
- I’m disappointed because I need connection with my manager.
Now to figure out the strategies to meet those needs.
This is not going to be easy… I’ve been feeling like this for months and months. It’s not going away and the feelings are getting stronger, so I obviously have to do something about it.
